The Bucket List - Final Scene

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A brief interlude

I realized that I've not signed into this blog for a while now,7 months actually. In the interim,my midwest journey continues as I am now in Omaha,Nebraska after a brief but incredibly busy stay at Minneapolis. Its yet another winter and the wind chill is immense here in Omaha.On a particularly frigid night,the mercury downed to -22 F,that's the coldest I've ever seen. Its better now,guess the benchmarks have been considerably lowered,20 F seems pleasant now!!.

Its a crazy world out there-an economic downturn getting worse by the day,Rahman and Sukhwinder opening the Oscar night and "Q &A"- a book I read late in 2005 is now a widely acclaimed,academy award nominted movie(Slumdog Millionaire). Rahman never ceases to amaze.Listen to "Arziyan" from the upcoming 'Delhi 6'....unputdownable if ever a song can be called that.

Ganguly and Kumble have bid goodbye from the cricket field,Sachin still going strong.The man and his undying love for the game-an inspiration always.

In the USA,Bush has left presidency and Obama has taken over. A spectacular orator,I just hope he lives up to all the trust and the hype.I remember watching the inaugration back in 2001. This time around it was big,millions turned out on a frigid winter day to celebrate a new President.

My little boy turned 1 back in Oct,how time flies. The seconds keep ticking and the business of life and existence goes on.....

An ocean of memories- Farewell Queen City!

When I arrived in Cincinnati on that balmy night in the summer of 2005, little did I know that this all American city in the mid west would be our home for the next three years. Well, time has literally flown and as I find myself days from leaving this fantastic city, I look back on my time here. Though professionally these were my most languid years, yet personally I think I definitely enjoyed my stay here.

We lived at the Harper's point community in Symmes township, nationally known for its excellent school district. This is a fantastic location,you walk across the street from the apartment complex and there are shops,restaurants, saloons...in short everything. There is another shopping complex right next door appropriately named "The Shops at Harpers Point" which houses a Kroger for grocery needs and a host of other shops and some very popular restaurants. All major brands, be it Best Buy,Circuit City,Sam's Club,Costco,Meijers... are right on the main Montgomery road, all within 5 mile radius.There is the excellent Bethesda North hospital a stone's throw away. If you want more choices, you could drive a couple of miles into Mason which has the picturesque Deerfield township center with a great array of shops and restaurants. In all the places I have lived in the US, I have never come across such easy access to all conveniences one needs in daily life. My work was only 4 miles away in Mason. So the setting couldn't have been any better.

Another fantastic place which we frequented during our stay here was the Sharonville park- over 700 acres of lush greenery housing a lake,beautifully maintained grounds,a golf course,fishing and picnic areas and the ever so popular children's play area.All this less than four miles from our home. Cincinnati's park system is enviable- thousands of acres of greenery and lakes with walking trails and picnic areas for families. The much bigger Miami Whitewater park is also nearby.

Downtown Cincinnati offers many great outdoor locations. The Cincinnati Museum is a spectacular structure which offers visitors various displays round the year and also houses the breathtaking Omnimax with a gigantic 360 degrees screen. I have seen some memorable nature documentaries here. The Titanic display which I blogged about in 2006 was also here and featured actual artifacts from the most famous ship in history.

The Newport on the Levee - the Ohio/Kentucky riverfront is also gorgeous specially in summers. It features an array of shops and restaurants on the riverfront offering picture perfect views of the Cincinnati downtown. You could drive into Kentucky and enjoy scenic views of Cincinnati across the river.There is the famous purple people's bridge which is a complete pedestrian zone and also offers climbing for a fee during summers. We spent many a pleasant summer evening enjoying a stroll here.

The Khron conservatory was another of my favorite places with its annual butterfly and flower show being a crowd puller.Cincinnati's zoo - the second oldest zoo in the nation is also fabulous though it was not a pretty sight watching polar bears in climate controlled areas when the outside temperatures soared.Another very popular retreat - the Paramount's King's Island entertainment park in Mason is also stupendous though we never made it there.

Every summer Cincinnati hosts the Western and Southern financial Tennis tournament featuring the top players in the world.It was a privilege to watch some of the biggest names in Tennis live here-Roger Federer, Andy Roddick, Serena Williams. Also got to see Sania Mirza playing Patty Schneider here back in 2006. The two regrets I have is I missed an opportunity to watch Tiger Woods when he played in Pittsburgh in 2007 and never made it to the Indy500/F1 in Indianapolis- about a 100 miles or so from here.

We also made several long weekend trips in and around- to the Cumberland lakes and forest,the enchanting smoky mountains and national park in Gatlinburg, Tennessee,the Memorial day trip to Sandusky and the Put-in-bay island in 2007,Hocking hills, the Red Indian serpent mound, the riveting Air Force museum in Columbus....

Cincinnati in winter is also very nice because it does not get pounded by snow as much as some of the other states. It does get very very cold but during my time here there were only a couple of snowstorms every season. I did get caught in traffic during one of those and it took me a marathon three hours to complete the four mile journey home!

I had a wonderful time and would love to be here sometime again.Though I was itching to move from here for a while, it was more due to professional reasons. Over the remaining few days I plan to take pictures of all the places I talk about here and do a picture blog and also video tape the local area.

Thank you Queen city,the wonderful people I met here, the friends we made...you all are part of a memory which will last a lifetime.Many years from now I would love to come back and visit all these places where we spent these memorable years.

So long Cincy...be well...Adieu!

Two immortal songs

One of the most poignant songs ever penned and even more poignantly rendered in the immortal voice of Kishore. The lyrics are a microcosm of life itself, the entire fabric of life with its bitter sweet memories,the tears and the joys. Though in the context in which the song was portrayed it was more a case of betrayal of trust and its eventual fallout. It reflected on the tragic realization of a life wrecked by a seemingly plausible truth which turns out to be a fallacy.

Its one of my all time favorites primarily because of its philosophical undertones, an almost biopic canvas that it paints.

I would have been tempted to lament the lack of creativity amongst today's musicians in producing such sublime quality. While true to some extent, I know that's not the case because I stumbled on to this. Need I say more?

Not enought wheat?

When I stopped by the local desi store to get stuff, the owner had an interesting story to tell. Apparently the Indian Government had banned all wheat exports citing domestic shortages. The US farmers dropped wheat and grew sugarcane instead the last season. The plum ethanol prices must have been too lucrative. So with no in-house wheat production,America imported wheat from countries like India to satisfy the McDonalds and the Pizza Huts.

The Indian Govt has its own ridiculous policies which led to a wheat shortage with the end result that there's not enough for national consumption. So the Indian Govt went ahead and banned all wheat exports. There you see, I got my 'flat' world moment!

So now we have to make do with wheat produce from Canada. Its not exactly 'aata'- some strange concoction called "durram atta' . Even the price of that has gone through the roof from $9 to $18 . The American farmers have planted a huge winter wheat crop this season and the prices are expected to get restored later this year. But till then expect to shell out more on your pizzas and bagels.

Team India not for the weak hearted!

So here I was, a day night game on Saturday night. Following cricket from USA is a challenge with time difference making sure that games are on in odd hours. A Sunday afternoon start in Adelaide means a 10:30 PM Saturday night start for those of us on the EST timezone. India's series down under has been one heck of a series so far for all sorts of reasons. Enough has been said and written about the test series so I won't get into it here again.

The win at the MCG last Sunday meant sky rocketing expectations for us Indian fans. However, having followed the trials and tribulations of the Indian Cricket team since early eighties I well know how misplaced those expectations are. India dealt the first blows in this game reducing the Aussies to 73 for five. Hayden,Ponting,Gilly,Symonds- all the big guns gone without hundred on the board. The young Indian pace attack led by the gangly Ishant seemed unstoppable. Would we do the impossible- beat the Aussies in back to back games in their own den? The plot seemed too good to be true. Sure enough, just when it looked like we would do the Aussies some real embarrassment, we took off the foot from the pedal. Clark led the fightback with the lower order and Aussies ended up with 203 on the board.

By this time it was already 2AM and I decided not to be drawn into the heart stopping Indian batting. I guessed the ball was gonna swing and 204 wasnt that easy. It would be a tragedy to follow the game into the wee hours of the morning and end up on the loosing side. Decided to catch some sleep and when I checked back in the morning, sure enough there it was- 50 runs thrashing as Aussies even won a bonus point. I should have known, maybe I did. I am glad I chose to see the best part of the match and slept through the disaster. Oh well...on to the next match. Win or loss, I remain a cricket addict.

A million mutinies?

I was extremely saddened to read about recent reports where North Indian workers in Bombay were attacked by Maharashtra Navnirman Sena(MNS). This is apalling, a proverbial black mark on a megapolis like Bombay which takes pride in being a melting pot of cultures. Apparently the grouse of Raj Thakeray and his goons was that labor migrants from Bihar and UP were creating lots of turbulence in the city and stretching the city's infrastructure to the point of no return.

Though there is some truth in the matter, migration across countries as well as within is a universal phenomena. People will try to flock to a place where opportunity and a better life beckons. But as a citizen of the Republic of India, the constitution gives me the right to be free to pursue my livelihood anywhere within the nation. It should not matter where I come from. In return one should be willing to abide by the law. If the migrants from UP and Bihar are creating a law and order situation its got to be addressed by the State Government and not through some self appointed son of the soil who is clearly trying to canvass support by playing the regionalism card.

One of the shining achievements of India as a nation post independence is how we have managed to survive as a democracy despite our myriad cultural differences. The disgraceful Bombay episode is a potent threat to the democratic fabric of the nation. Just the other day I read that the Kannada activists attacked and destroyed public property at a Bangalore railway station. These useless goons need to be severely dealt with. If we are saying that Bombay is only for Mahrashtrians, Bangalore for Kannadigas, Chennai for Tamils, then its simply going to be suicidal. More and more Indians now earn their livelihoods abroad. What if every country follows suit and throws us out using similar logic?

At a time when India is better placed on an economic scale than ever before it would be disastrous to let petty things like regionalism take over. Hopefully this too shall pass.

M for 'Multicultural'

I was in a dial-in training today where the presenter- a Danish guy mentioned how Indians have a peculiar way of shaking their head to signify a "Yes" or a "No" which is mighty confusing!. He mentioned this in the context of working in a multi cultural team. This is indeed true, working on a team with folks from diverse cultures often presents some amusing moments. I worked with Brazilians on a project and trying to understand their heavily accented English was quite a challenge. I think it was difficult for them too, one of the guys mentioned that for some reason he found it much easier to understand me on the phone than in person. In time though I found that it got better. Also being exposed to varied regional undertones in which English is spoken in India was a big help because it meant I was not so much used to a particular accent. The case was entirely different with Americans on my team. For them it was nearly impossible to get what the Brazilians were speaking though.

Talking of accents, as is the standard practice on the phone, you spell out a password with an example for each alphabet- You would go "A for apple, C for Cat and so on and so forth". Have heard some interesting ones there- "X for whatever, K for King Kong"!!!

Though the cultural diversity across the world is the cause for unrest in many cases, its never lost on me that however different we may perceive ourselves from other societies and vice versa, the universal constants of family,friends,work - things we worry about and live for remain the same. We are not that different after all.

20 Mile House

There is this beautiful historic landmark called "20 Mile House" on my way to work. Its a small building more like the taverns you read about in old stories. Stopped on the traffic light bang opposite this nostalgic place, the electronic sign caught my eye a few months back. It said "We were here before you were born, 1822". Some research on the internet revealed that the 20 Mile House traces its history back to 1822, when it operated as a stagecoach stop and tavern. It was well known for its Irish coffee and cheese wheels. The place had closed down some years back.

Some days later while again stopped on the same light I read on the electronic sign that the house was open again and would serve dinners and cocktails like the old times. Who doesn't love a little bit of history? Certainly I do. I get an eerie feeling on passing such an old place everyday which was hard done by modern times but glad to know I can have dinner in a true blue American tavern of the 1800's.

Taare Zameen Par

In short, the finest Hindi movie I have seen in a long time.Someone finally made a movie on a middle class kid's growing up years in India- the pressures,the ever increasing burden of unrealistic expectations demanded by parents,teachers,peers almost everyone around you.It's all the more ironic because in our country there are millions of children whose dreams get quashed everyday because of lack of resources and biting poverty while at the other end of the spectrum,the well off middle and upper classes of the society are just too busy pushing their children through the assembly line of 'educated' engineers,doctors and the like.In the process the child's inclination,natural talents are thrown out of the door and the children themselves herded towards a never ending rat race which lasts and consumes a life time.

To me this was the broader theme of the movie.The fact that young Ishaan was Dyslexic was just a means to make it easier for the wider audience to connect with the story. He could well have been a normal boy falling behind in academic life because of the rigors and constraints applied by an unforgiving system.Well, even "falling behind" can be relative because when you have the guy next door scoring 99%, expectations can take up new meanings.

Coming back to the movie, there were atleast two absolutely stand out sequences. The first one when Aamir visits Ishaan's parents to disclose the fact that Ishaan has dyslexia and he needs care and affection instead of being pushed and put down all the time, and the second one when Ishaan's father comes visiting at boarding school to tell Aamir that he indeed 'cares' for his son.
I wish I could reproduce the whole "Khayaal Karna" stanza here, its magnificently penned and delivered.Darsheel Safari as Ishaan is the soul of the movie and his performance towers above the rest.Incredible talent!

It could be argued-"What to do about it?"-isn't the system responsible for this mess and quite simply its beyond one to bend the system..isn't it? I would agree but only to an extent,sure you have to conform to the rules but at the same time you can do well not to create roadblocks for your child and push him or her more than is needed so that their childhood is not lost in the practically worthless myriad of "90%" and "A+" grades.Like countless others of my generation I have been there and seen it all.Dyslexia or not we have all been Ishaan at some point in our lives.That our education system is in dire needs of reform is stating the obvious,but before that can happen our thoughts need to reform. Being a Painter,writer,musician or chef is every bit as respectable as being a doctor or an engineer and certainly more satisfying and lasting if you have the talent for it.

Holiday Lights

Yesterday we decided to bite the holiday bullet and ventured into the Kenwood city mall,believed to be the poshest mall here in Cincinnati. Sure it was crowded but things were pretty well organized. The mall was beautifully decorated and there was the unmistakable festive spirit around. People were rushing to complete their holiday shopping and the stores had made sure that they had "discount" prices all over the place to push up the sales. The holiday shopping season in the US is a vital sign of the general health of the economy. The news isn't too good on that front as sales are down compared to last year and there are signs of a recession looming on the horizon.

I'm an electronics junkie and could spend hours looking at gadgets, however everything else is quite simply boring specially clothes,accessories and the works. Saw a big crowd at the Apple store-ipods,iphones,nanos still going strong despite the fact that Apple never ever slashes prices.It makes me wonder- why do people buy from a store, isn't it much cheaper to look for deals online and on amazon you don't have to pay sales tax(don't ask me, I have no clue how that works but its legal as of now). For example, I was looking at a Sony noise canceling headphone listed on Amazon for $135(no tax,free shipping). I checked out the same item at the Sony store and it was listed as $199.99 plus taxes. As John Matterse would say on his daily show- doesn't that stink!?

We wanted to have Nishkarsh's picture taken with Santa but there was a long queue and when we checked back His Excellency Santa Claus was on a break(:

Little Champs

Over the weekend I watched a lot of TV and changed a lot of diapers!. We had some rough weather with a snow storm heading our way. However the 4-6 inches forecast turned out to be nothing major with hardly 2 inches accumulation,a major portion of it being washed away with the rain that followed. However, the temps really plummeted and we were down to the teens.

I have been following Zee's Little Champs for a while now. Its an entertaining show with a group of very talented and musically inclined kids performing every week. The two judges on the show,Suresh Wadkar and Sonu Nigam are legends in their own right. Their feedback on the performances with due emphasis on technical details and a fair amount of encouragement is a treat to watch. Too often you hear judges on these types of programs only parroting sentences full of praise which literally mean nothing.

Here are my two cents on some of the kids I like:

Sagar : The cricket crazy Bombay lad may not be the best singer in the group but I feel he has much more potential than is evident in his performances. He seems to be a very lively young boy who gets a little overawed by the occasion. Happens to the best of us.He's been ousted from the competition once and is back as a wild card entry. However, it remains to be seen if he's able to hold on to his spot.

Sahil: The quiet, unassuming lad from Hissar,Haryana is immensely talented. However, his nerves got the better of him and he got eliminated from the show. To my immense delight, he was back as a wild card entry and gave two power packed performances earning kudos from the judges. I would be very disappointed if he doesn't cut it in the public voting which is literally a lottery.

Vasundhara: Perhaps the most consistent and tuneful singer on the show. This girl has got amazing variety and such a sweet voice. Definitely a front runner in the race so far.

Tanmay: My favorite on the show. The little boy from Lucknow is fun to watch. He's got a style and personality of his own. A very good singer and someone who doesnt have any sort of stage fear,this little boy is as innocent as they come. Another consistently good performer so far.

Rohan: The Sikh lad is an easy going,wonderfully talented singer who performs effortlessly without a care in the world. He's given some top notch performances so far.I quite like the boy.

Vaishali: This little girl is fun but talks too much!. Not quite consistent and on the verge of elimination.

There have been couple of instances where parents have objected to some of the decisions made by the judges. I think that's absurd for the judges are doing a very fine job and know a great deal about music than the average Joe in the audience. Also, by bickering these fellows are really setting a bad example for their kids. This is a competition and all judgments are biased to some extent. How hard it is to understand that? They almost make it seem that this show is the finality of their children's career. They cannot be more in the wrong. Agreed,its fabulous to win but then this is not the end of the world.Let the kids enjoy the competition and learn as much as they can from the two fabulous singers on the show.

The kids are far more sporting and care free than their parents and its their attitude which makes this show so watchable.

Dus Kahaniyan

Caught this movie the other day. I love short stories and this movie's plot promised to weave ten brisk,interesting tales together complete with new set of actors and directors for each.I had made up my mind even before watching this one that it was going to be pleasantly intriguing and gripping.

Well,I shouldn't have had my hopes so high as I was treated to a rude shock.The first couple of stories were so ordinary and soulless that it took me by surprise when they ended. I almost exclaimed every time - "What,that's it...that's supposed to be a whole story??". It continued over and over-old wine in a new bottle,absolutely mundane run of the mill stuff being paraded as something novel and innovative. The only saving grace was the "Rice Plate" largely due to the presence of perhaps the two best actors in India-Naseerudin Shah and Shabana Azmi.They transformed what was a pretty lame storyline to something captivating and lasting by virtue of their incredible acting prowess. Naseer doesnt even have more than a dialogue in the part but his presence is unmistakable. Shabana looked the traditional religion obsessed south Indian lady in a manner which made it appear she had been one most of her life.

This brings me back to the title "Dus Kahaniyan",seven of those were a complete waste of my time. The other two worth mentioning were the stories involving Amrita Singh and the first one. I forget their titles but they were relatively watchable than rest of the crap.

Person of Indian Origin!

I had to recently apply for a Person of Indian Origin (PIO) card for my son who was born here in the US. Filling up Government paperwork ranks below the most mundane items on my list like getting a haircut or shopping for clothes. However, because I had no intentions of procrastinating this item on my to-do list I started where I always do-Google!

Found out a ton of things about the PIO card program. Apparently the dual citizenship initiative of the Indian Govt went only so far. In the interim there are two schemes for people of Indian origin who want to enjoy a visa free entry to India- PIO and the OCI(Overseas citizen of India). In typical fashion where Govt procedures make everything more complicated,this too was headed in the same direction. Well, after a bit of more research discovered that the OCI program is NOT open to children whose parents have Indian citizenship. The OCI scheme grants more or less lifelong permanent residency in India. The PIO on the other hand is also similar except that you are still considered an NRI and have to register your presence with local authorities in case your stay extends beyond 6 months.Additionally it needs to be renewed every 15 years.

Since PIO was the only option, I went about following the specified procedure.In no time encountered the first red tape- "Fill form in duplicate". Agreed this was a minor hassle,the next one was "thumb impressions" for all minors who cannot sign.The Parents cannot sign for the minor child. This is absurd,when all paperwork is being done by the parent then why on earth he or she or both cant sign for the child applicant is beyond me.Worked around that by taking thumb impressions of our 1.5 month boy while he was asleep.Also,no mention whether right or left thumb is required or it doesn't matter which.

I normally fill all forms online and then just print and sign it. This way its much easier to type in the information legibly than putting someone else at the inhumane task of deciphering my sloppy handwriting. Alas, no such luck this time. The PIO application says at the top "date in format dd/mm/yy". My acrobat reader would pop a big red at that saying "incorrect date format". Moreover the font sizes seemed all screwed up. With a heavy heart, I took out my pen and hand filled the forms in the best writing I could muster. It was somewhat frustrating because the space provided for writing was just too measly at many places.

The red tape continued. The Indian consulate wouldn't accept payment in personal checks,only money orders or cashier's cheques. This meant a trip to the bank and extra $$ in money order fees- a definite hassle.Passport photos- another rip off. This time not by the consulate but by American businesses. A set of 2 pictures costs about $10 and no digital copy provided means you go back and pay every time you want more copies. Google to the rescue again-The folks at
www.epassportphoto.com have done a BIG service . Just take a shot using a digital camera at home,use their software to crop/size the picture and print in on your photo printer-neat!.Taking a picture of a 1.5 month old with eyes open and mouth closed can be a challenging task.Anyone who has gone though the exercise will concur.

Some inaccuracies I noted - The PIO card fee has apparently been increased recently to $185 for minors. This important fact is inconsistently reported. At some places it still says $155.The address on top of the form has a different zip than the one in the mailing address.Also discovered to my astonishment that back in 1999 when the PIO card scheme was launched the fee was $1000!!.However to be fair still far less than what the US Green Card entails.

The good thing- application by mail doesn't require you to send in the original Passport.Notarized copies suffice. This was definitely a positive. Another nice thing - the form is only 2 pages and instructions are quite clear.Now why doesn't the Govt stop this business of handing out PIO's and OCI's and pass that dual citizenship bill is hard to understand. With the bill being lost in the myriad dust of Indian political establishment,whether it will ever see the light of the day is anybody's guess and your's is as good as mine.

Back to School

Nope, I'm not writing about the "back to school" fever which hits the US every September. I was pleasantly surprised to see this write up on wikipedia

I do a lot of searches on wiki just for the heck of it so I eagerly lapped up this short article about my old school which has lately become quite famous due to MS Dhoni's rise in Indian cricket. Actually the school was always in news atleast locally for the steady stream of talented students it churned out every year who got thru to IIT's, AIMS and the likes.

I still remember the meeting with the then vice principal Mrs Thind- a strict, upright Punjabi lady. The occasion was my "interview" if I can call it that before joining the Nursery grade!. I was shown a rose and asked to name the flower,I declined to answer due to reasons I cant remember now and was promptly admitted to the school nevertheless. Those were the good old days for now I read that only those scoring 95% and above get entry to the science stream.The article also told me that the school now runs in two sessions morning and afternoon to accommodate the burgeoning student population.

Mr RE Singh used to be the Principal in my time. He was the butt of many jokes I don't seem to recall now. What I do recall is his highly agitated frame on the assembly platform when a loud cracker went off with an ear shattering bang right in the middle of the morning prayer session.
This auspicious incident would normally precede the Deepawali festival. The current school Principal Mr DR Singh used to be the Chemistry teacher. He was a pretty good teacher but had a particular quirk of gesticulating with his hands as he described a dumbbell shaped ionic bond
If I remember right,he had spent some years in South Africa on a teaching program and he would recount tales from that sometimes.

I was quite amused to see the name next to the Dean's column on the website. SN Thakur our dreaded Physics teacher-fondly known as TNT is now the Dean of the school. I think this position was abolished after a few years when I started school. He once told someone in our class to see him afterwards for extra coaching. This was a subtle recommendation to join his private tutoring class. It was rumored that those who didn't would suffer when he evaluated term papers. I seem to forget now if there was any truth to this.

As I read that article, a plethora of memories and visions from the past rolled up in front of my eyes. Funny how a couple of pictures of old school buildings can take one on an express trip down the memory lane.

It's a Boy!

I became a father recently and lots of people asked me this question-How does it feel? Well,there are some moments which words however grandiose cannot do justice to. The moment of a child's birth is one such seminal event. This miracle of nature has it all- exasperation,moments of impatience,fear and ultimately sublime bliss. 

We were witness to this moment of joy and wonder as our little boy announced his arrival into the outside world at 1344 hours,Oct 15th,2007 with an ear shattering cry as the doctor held him up for us to get a first glimpse. Baby Nishkarsh weighed in at 8 pounds and 5 oz and measured 21 inches. The doctor and nurses were fabulous and so was the entire delivery and post-partum system at the Bethesda North hospital in Cincinnati. All three of us were strapped on with security bands on our wrists which was connected to the hospital's communication network.This is done to trigger alarms if someone tries to smuggle the baby out. Not that it happens but its a pretty reassuring feature. The mother and the baby's wrist bands have a special software which plays a nice little soothing tone every time the baby is near the mom.

"Rooming-in" with the baby post delivery is encouraged as it allows the baby and the mother to initiate that first bond of love and care. The hospital provides free in room meals for the mom but dads are expected to buy their lunches and dinners from the cafeteria or from outside. Not that I was particularly enthused with the cafeteria which served on a military like schedule-Breakfasts at 8 AM,Lunch at 11 AM,supper at 6 PM. That type of eating timetable is a bit too much to ask of an IT guy used to crazy timings and bad food habits:-). The nearby Mc Donald came to the rescue!

The much maligned Healthcare companies in the US are federally mandated to provide 48 hours of post delivery care for the mother and the baby in case of a natural birth and 96 hours in case of birth by C section. Anything over and above this mandate requires a medical order by your caregiver. Fortunately for us everything went well and since it was an uncomplicated natural birth and the fact that both the mother and the baby were doing well,our release orders were provided to us within 48 hours of the birth. This could be the only time when you feel a slight tinge at leaving a hospital. I mean all is so gung-ho in there,you press a bell and the wonderful staff is at your beck and call and then they hand over your baby and you're in the cockpit...no more autopilot!

The amount of reading material you get stuffed with during the 40 weeks of pregnancy can be intimidating and then there is the wonderful internet. In my opinion all this helps since babies do not come with their operating manuals!.A trip to Baby'sRus is another watershed.Do these small adorable beings require so much gear? There are lots and lots of innovative stuff which are life savers for new parents but a lot of stuff is plain junk invented with a purely business mind. A wet wipe warmer?....wonder who uses that!

On to probably the biggest life saver- Disposable Diapers-Babies in the US consume on an average 5000+ dipaers a year!!. That's a staggering statistic. And of course they are NOT bio-degradable.What a mess!.Just like the oil companies the Diaper manufacturers like Pampers and Huggies and other brands must be sitting on a steady supply of gold.Did I mention the sci-fi looking Diaper disposable system like Diaper champ or Diaper genie. Toss the soiled diaper in and turn the handle and you're done. No odor, no mess...neat!

The first few days were kind of rough as we struggled to attend to needs of this little being who demands so much attention and care enough to keep you busy morning,day and night.It does get better as time passes and you get to understand what those baby cries mean. I think I can safely say Parenting is a journey- tough,occasionally frustrating,exhausting but just like other momentous journeys of life- rewarding,blissful and joyful in itself with no particular goal or destination. One keeps traveling and keeps learning. This quote about sums it up in my opinion-

"Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children, and no theories.  ~John Wilmot"

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Piano Themes

I am a big fan of great Piano themes specially the ones from some of my favorite movies. There's something magical about the Piano.A well trained pianist can work magic with the black and white keys. I know nothing about music other than the layman aesthetic appreciation for it. I have tried experimenting with listening to the great works of Western music-Bach,Beethoven,Mozart, Chopin.

I have not reached a position where I can identify the pieces but they leave me astounded nevertheless. Its fabled that Mozart composed the immortal "Twinkle,Twinkle little star" when he was 5. There is something absolutely captivating about western classical music specially the piano notes even if one is not refined enough to get into the technical stuff.

Some of the more famous Hollywood OST's played on the Piano have been nothing short of breathtaking. There is James Horner brilliant and moving score in Titanic. This is what Director James Cameron had to say about Horner's score:

"When James and I met to discuss "Titanic" for the first time almost two years ago, we both searched for words to express the depth of feeling we had for the subject and how we should go about scoring the film. I felt strongly that the score should be unconventional and not the classic period score with its sweeping orchestral stings. I wanted the film to transport the audience back in time and to make that moment in history not history but life... a moment spent with living people like you and me. The music had to have emotional power and a life energy that could move an audience now , in the closing years of our jaded and revved-up century, without sounding gimmicky or anachronistic."

"I was tremendously excited by that initial encounter and so we embarked on what proved to be, for both of us, the most grueling and demanding, yet ultimately the most rewarding, creative partnership of our careers. Early in '97, as filming ended, James invited me to his studio where he played some initial sketches and melodies on the piano. I will never forget the moment before James began to play... sitting there hoping and praying the themes would be good. And realizing minutes later that the themes were far beyond good. They were everything I had dreamed, perfectly capturing the aching, bittersweet heart of the film."

James Horner produced another very poignant and very touching score in the "Beautiful Mind".The background score totally enhances the emotive content of a story. There is nothing more captivating than a brilliant scene or a masterfully delivered narrative like Morgan Freeman's now immortal voice over in the Shawshank Redemption which comes alive miraculously when the background score specially the Piano notes float dream like, gradually building into a crescendo which culminates with a turning point in the story.

Browsing through youtube I discovered some very competent and sonorous Piano themes. These are some of my absolute favorites I can listen over and over without ever getting tired. I wish I could learn the Piano and can only dream I could play some of these magnificent pieces of art. Hats off to these immensely talented folks.

Beautiful Mind Theme

Another Rendition of the Beautiful Mind

The Titanic Theme

World Trade Center Theme

Pearl Harbor-Tennessee

Harry Potter Weekend

I would like to dedicate this weekend to Harry.On Saturday we ventured out to watch the new sequel to the Potter series-"The Order of Phoenix". I haven't thumbed through every one of the four Potter books so far. I have scrambled through some pages of the first volumes and the only one I have read through is the "Prisoner of Azkaban".

The narrative is delightful. It has that old world charm of an enticing story which makes you turn the pages as fast as you can. The imagination is rich,vivid and breathtaking. I must say JK Rowling has made reading in vogue again specially amongst the children.Coming back to the movie,we had the tickets to the IMAX/3D experience. I have watched a couple of those now with "Return of Superman" and "Spiderman 3" recently. The screen is gigantic and the sound system they employ is a bewildering 12000 watts surround. Of course the whole movie is not in 3D. As with the earlier ones I had watched,there are short action sequences within the movie which are in 3D. So when you see the blinking glasses sign at the bottom of the screen, you know its time to put on the fancy 3D glasses they hand out at the start of the show. Its fun for sure. You almost feel like a kid in a candy store waiting impatiently for the 3D sign to appear. The excitement of the children is infectious.Its amusing to see the little ones walk into the theater sporting big smiles and the 3D glasses on the whole time. The best part was when Harry's kissing scene came along. A kid in the row behind us quipped "Are'nt they gonna kiss in 3D?".His parents went "ssh....".

The movie was excellent. Even though I haven't read the book, I know the characters and the general storyline quite well.The end 20 minute fight sequence featuring Harry,Dumbledore and the dark lord was breathtaking in 3D IMAX. I almost felt like I was in the middle of it all with lightning and fire blazing. That scene itself was moneys worth. The story was so captivating that I felt it ended all too soon. Little did I realize how fast the 2 hours flew by.There was a mild hiccup before the show though. I had purchased our tickets through the online system where you get to choose the seat. Now when we walked into the theater, we found out that one of the seats we booked online didn't even exist physically. With the show being sold out I thought I was going to give the guest services a dressing down but the Manager ushered us into two great seats normally reserved for the Press. Since there were no print folks expected today,it was a neat way out of the mess. So much for online seat selection.

The other day I saw Larry King interview Daniel Radcliffe. Not even 18, the fella is already worth millions.You don't need that magic wand, do you Harry? Not to mention that JK Rowling is the first literary billionaire.There is frenzied excitement over the next Potter book coming out in a week's time with midnight launch parties planned in book stores across continents. When was the last time buying a book sounded so exciting?

So for ordinary muggles like me, what do I say? Perhaps "Expecto Patronum"....there you go.

July 4th

Its good to be in America on July 4th-you get a holiday!.Some years if you are lucky the holiday falls on a Friday or a Monday making it a long weekend which is a ready excuse for packing up and holidaying somewhere.Unfortunately that didn't happen this time around.The corporates no longer are generous enough to convert a mid week holiday into a long weekend. Those days are long gone.

A holiday in the middle of a work week can seem strange-more like a sudden stall in the monotony of work.The next day can be bitter sweet thinking about a break which went so fast that it didn't even register.Anyway, I believe in making the most of a paid day off.A recent study declared America to be a 'no-vacation-nation'. The Europeans lead in the holiday category.Since a day is just not enough time to drive anywhere far,we decided to spend the day in the city which turned out to be an eat out and a movie day.I realized that we had never tried out the Buffalo wild wings grill just across the street.The food was delicious specially the hot sauce was sensational.Its not always that spicy means 'spicy' around here. Most of the times it turns out pretty mild. So a thumbs up to the folks at Buffalo Wings.

The movie was "Live Free or Die Hard" another sequel to the Die Hard series with this one coming out after a dozen years or so.I booked us into the director's hall since there were no 3D/IMAX options.The Director's hall turned out to be a smaller theater with leather recliners,definitely much more comfortable than the normal fare. Just before the show started a plump old lady slipped and fell in the aisle just behind us. Miraculously she didn't break any bones.Thank goodness for that. The movie was entertaining- an action packed,typical Hollywood blockbuster.Bruce Willis comfortably over 50 now but still pretty nimble and having that deadpan humor that was the highlight of the movie. A typical conversation went like this:

Co-Star: They kidnapped your daughter,What you gonna do?
Bruce: I will kill all of them and get my daughter back.
Co-Star:That's you plan?Listen...we ought to have a plan B...
Bruce:Yeah...that's my plan...I'm gonna go there and kick their ass...

Gave the 4th of July fireworks in the local area a miss.Been to too many of those.No longer fun until you are out with a group and a picnic hamper.In fact there was a tornado warning in effect but luckily for the crowds the rain Gods relented just long enough for the fireworks to finish before the much needed rain drops crashed over the cityscape.

I mentally made a note to check out the history behind the 4th of July-wikipedia to the rescue!.

Are you from the past?

Couple of weeks back,one summery evening we were strolling around the pool area of our apartment complex. Its a cool little tucked away area with a nice adults and a kid's pool with an adjoining club/bar.There is a nice children's play area too with swings and slides.I was busy admiring the cute little duck family who were frolicking by the fountain in a nearby pond,when a kid probably around 6 or 7 asked what language we were conversing in-was it Chinese? he asked. Not sure if he would understand if I said Hindi, I told him it was Indian and so were we. He pondered over this for a while and then shot back-Are you from the past? I was amused,obviously he had understood "Indians" as in Red Indians and hence his bewildered question-were we actually the Red Indians from his history books.?I thought about Bill Cosby...he was right-Kids say the darnedest things.